How do I get mum or dad to accept a carer into their lives?

Navigating the Conversation: A Child’s Guide to Discussing Care with Mum or Dad

Its never easy to get family members to admit to needing external help for personal care. Here are 5 tips on how to start the conversation:

1. Choose the Right Moment

Bringing up the topic of care can be daunting. Pick a time when your parent is relaxed and not preoccupied. Avoid moments of stress or when they’re busy with work. Maybe during a quiet evening or over a cup of tea, gently express your feelings.

2. Be Honest and Open

Start the conversation with honesty. Share your observations and concerns. For example, “Mum, I’ve noticed that you seem tired lately,” or “Dad, I’ve seen you forget things more often.” Acknowledge their efforts and express your love. Remember, vulnerability is a strength.

3. Use “I” Statements

Instead of saying, “You need help,” say, “I’m worried about you.” Using “I” statements avoids blame and invites empathy. For instance, “I feel concerned when you forget to take your medication,” or “I’d like to help because I care about you.”

4. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Encourage dialogue by asking open-ended questions. “How are you feeling?” or “What can I do to support you?” Let them share their thoughts and feelings. Active listening is crucial—show genuine interest and validate their emotions.

5. Suggest Solutions Together

Approach the conversation as a team. Propose practical solutions. “Would you like me to help with grocery shopping?” or “Let’s explore home care options.” Collaborate on decisions, ensuring their autonomy and dignity.

Remember, discussing care is an act of love. Your parents will appreciate your concern and willingness to be there for them.

For more advice simply reach out to a certified Quality Care Advisor at Network Live in Care, call 0121 728 8958 or email gavin.chase@networkhsc.co.uk